Take a look at this list of the things brides fear as their wedding days approach. You may find out that you’re not as paranoid as you think. The good news is that most of these fears are never realized. As long as you remember that the goal of your wedding day is to get married to your true life mate, everything else is just, if you’ll forgive the cliché, icing on the cake.
No one will show up. As the president of a professional DJ company that has performed at more than 15,000 weddings, I can say with confidence that no bride has ever told me that her turnout was disappointing; and I’ve never looked out at rows of half-empty banquet tables. People will come.
No one will dance. Assuming you’ve hired a great DJ, it is the rarest of weddings that end up with an empty dance floor. People who want to dance, will dance to good music. And this should encourage you: we’ve had a handful of weddings in our 50 years in which very few people danced. At the end of each of them, people came up and raved about our song selection. They just weren’t dancers; but they felt that we played music they loved, so they went home with great memories of the wedding.
I’m terrified about giving a speech. No one says you have to. Perhaps your spouse is the public speaker in the family; there’s nothing wrong with letting him or her make your welcoming remarks, or even skipping those remarks altogether. Scared that you’ll get emotional when you speak? You’re among friends! And those moments of unscripted emotion will make them love you even more!
My vendors will be no-shows. Choose vendors that are A+ rated by the Better Business Bureau. The rating grades a vendor on reliability. Any vendor that fails to appear at a scheduled event will certainly generate a complaint, and lose that cherished A+ rating instantly.
It’ll rain. If you’re planning an outdoor ceremony, have a backup plan – either an alternate indoor site or a tent. If you’re planning your wedding at a banquet hall, golf club or whatever, be sure they tell you, in writing, what alternative they’ll provide if the weather doesn’t cooperate. If they say, “You’re on your own,” look elsewhere.
Someone will make awkward or insulting comments in a speech. Don’t entrust your microphone to anyone who may be prone to using profanity, or telling dirty jokes, or using their 15 minutes of fame to settle old scores. The microphone is for adults only!
My gown will be too tight. There’s a reason most bridal salons won’t hold a fitting session until a month or so before your wedding. They don’t want to give you time to gain 20 pounds. If you got your fitting early, try your dress on again, every few weeks, so you’ll have plenty of time to respond when you’ve added weight.
I’ll be sick. In the days before your wedding, get plenty of sleep; skip the booze; drink lots of water; eat healthy meals; exercise regularly (even if it’s just a daily walk). You should be just fine on your wedding day.
I’ll spill something colorful on my white gown. That’s easy. Don’t drink red wine. Eat slowly. Use a big napkin.
My flower girl or ring bearer will throw a tantrum. What better time than during a wedding ceremony, when every eye in the room is focused on them? If the kids are too young to understand appropriate behavior, have Mom or Dad stand ready to swoop them up in their arms and finish the processional at the first sign of trouble.
See? There’s a way to prepare yourself for practically any potential disaster. It all comes down to having a “Plan B,” and not putting unreliable people in a position to wreck your special day. Happy planning!
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© Fourth Estate Audio, 2015 – Jay Congdon is president of Fourth Estate Audio, a professional Chicago DJ and Chicago Wedding DJ company.comments powered by Disqus