An introverted bride doesn’t like being the center of attention; but like it or not, what’s what she’ll face on her wedding day. These simple tips will help a shy bride get through her big day with minimal stress.
- Keep your wedding low-key. From wearing an understated gown, to holding a small private ceremony, to inviting only your families and closest friends, to hiring a wedding DJ who’s tasteful and classy, you can ensure an intimate celebration that will be both joyful and relaxing.
- You don’t need 15 bridesmaids. Brides who revel in lots of attention may want to impress everyone with a massive wedding party. But having just a Maid of Honor is sufficient; anything more than that is up to you. You’ll still be just as married at the end of the day.
- Gather your dearest friends and relatives together before your wedding day. Host an intimate luncheon, picnic, beach party, barbecue — something informal — to let the people closest to you get their “face time” with you. Then they won’t be competing for your attention at your ceremony or reception.
- Don’t encourage people to give you planning advice. That’s a can of worms you don’t need to open. If someone offers to perform a task like addressing your invitations or handling wedding-day transport of your flowers and decor, that’s great. Otherwise, decide on all of the important components of your big day, then tell well-wishers and unsolicited advisers, “Don’t worry; it’s already handled.”
- Arrange a “first look.” Gone are the days when it was simply forbidden for the groom to see the bride before their ceremony. Planning some quiet time together before the ceremony helps the two of you bond and center yourselves, without 200 pairs of eyes watching your every move. Invite your photographer to shoot a few pictures of your “first look,” but only a few. The rest of the time is just for the two of you.
- Decide between a sweetheart table and dinner with your entire bridal party. Some couples believe a table-for-two allows them some quiet time apart from their guests. Others like the idea of being just one couple at a big banquet table, and not being the focus of everyone’s attention.
- Get away. Find a time during your reception when it’s not essential for you to be there, and slip away — just the two of you — for a relaxing break. You’ll find that even a few minutes of not having to entertain dozens or hundreds of guests can be a real boost — especially when you and your mate have time to savor what you’ve just done, and just be a private couple for a little while.
- Let your extroverted spouse do the talking. It’s not uncommon for one of the newlyweds to offer a few welcoming remarks at the reception on behalf of both of you. If you’re not accustomed to public speaking, then don’t do it. No one will feel cheated that you didn’t give a speech.
- Allow yourself to bask in all the love. For all the stress of being the center of attention, remember that it’s just for a few hours, and you’re surrounded by everyone who loves you, all in one place. That’s pretty nice. As long as you give yourself an occasional break from the chaos, you’re going to have a lot of fond memories of this day. Just let them happen.
Now you’re ready to plan a wedding fit for an introverted queen. Remember, people love you for who you already are, not for your ability to keep them entertained for six hours. And who knows? Once the pressure is off, you may find that you’re not quite as introverted as you thought.
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© Fourth Estate Audio, 2015 – Jay Congdon is president of Fourth Estate Audio, a professional Chicago DJ and Chicago Wedding DJ company.comments powered by Disqus